This past month, I’ve started living life alongside teenage girls once again and I have to say — it was a long three years of separation. There is something special about young women. Their life is unfolding–the corners of their giftedness pulled back just-so. Their laughter fills me. Their trust humbles me. Let me introduce you to a young woman whom we watched bloom and grow several years ago. She is all woman now–all godly and glorious woman. And the reconnecting has been been good. Kari, so proud of you. You can read more of her beautiful reflections at If Words Could Save You. This letter is part of a series. To add your voice to the collaboration email me.
Until then, don’t let the world allure you with its temptation. Don’t let your “friends” convince you that having something is better than having nothing. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.
You deserve the fairytale.
Don’t sacrifice your boundaries for any boy. He should want to discover what’s inside your heart before he ever discovers what’s inside your clothes. He should treat you like a princess, not like a prostitute. You are more than one-night. He should want to be with you because of who you are, not because of what you’ll do.
You are worth waiting for.
Believe that your convictions are significant. It’s okay to not be like everyone else. It’s okay to be inexperienced. And, it’s okay to say no.
I promise you this – lust will never stand in for love. It will only break your heart. It will steal your innocence, shatter your trust, and diminish your hope. It will leave you empty and wanting more. Lust is a drug, and it will destroy you.
There is a love worth waiting for.
A love that will never ask you to compromise who you are for its affections. It will never abandon you for someone else. This love will fight for you, again and again and again. It will fill you. It will bring you joy. This love will accept you – every part of you. It will give you everything. It will give you life.
Love is going to find you someday.
His name is Jesus. He is worth the wait, worth it all.